Finding Professional Help
How to find and work with solicitors, financial advisers, and other professionals.
Finding Professional Help
Navigating divorce often requires professional support. This module guides you through finding and working with the right experts.
Types of Professionals
Family Law Solicitor
Essential for legal advice and court proceedings.
Family Mediator
Helps you and your partner reach agreements on finances or children without going to court. Before you can apply to court for most financial or children matters, you normally have to attend a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) first, or qualify for an exemption (see below).
Financial Adviser
Provides guidance on pension sharing, investments, and long-term planning.
Accountant
Useful if there are businesses or complex financial situations involved.
Mediation and the MIAM
Mediation is a way to sort out arrangements (money, property, and children) with the help of a neutral, trained family mediator, rather than fighting it out in court. It is usually quicker, cheaper, and less stressful, and you stay in control of the outcome.
In England and Wales you normally have to attend a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) before you can apply to court for most financial or children matters. This is an introductory meeting with a mediator who explains your options and assesses whether mediation could work for you. There are exemptions (for example where there has been domestic abuse), so you are not forced to mediate with someone you are afraid of.
Even in a contentious separation, exploring mediation early, or formally establishing that it is not suitable, is a normal and expected step. You can find an accredited mediator through the Family Mediation Council.
McKenzie Friends
If you end up representing yourself in court (a "litigant in person"), you can usually bring a McKenzie Friend: someone who sits with you, takes notes, helps you stay organised, and quietly offers support and advice. They can be a friend or relative, or a fee-charging service.
A McKenzie Friend does not normally have the right to speak for you in court or run your case (no automatic "right of audience") unless the judge specifically allows it. Citizens Advice and Support Through Court can also help if you are facing court without a solicitor.
Choosing a Solicitor
Look for:
- Resolution member (committed to non-confrontational approach)
- Specialist in family law
- Clear fee structure
- Good communication style
Tip: Many solicitors offer a free initial consultation. Use this to assess whether they're right for you.
Understanding Legal Costs
- Hourly rates vary significantly
- Fixed fees may be available for some services
- Legal aid is available in limited circumstances
- Consider a legal expenses insurance policy
Free Resources
- Citizens Advice
- Gov.uk guidance
- Family court helplines
- Women's support charities